You have to eliminate losing as an option in your life. Winning or learning are the only two options!
Winning and reaching your goals requires you to take ownership of your choices. Eliminating pride and ego is the first step!
Your life and what happens is no one else's choice but your own. We all have stuff that has happened to us, but we have the responsibility to choose to win, and never accept losing again!
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