People think we are born as a blank slate but there’s actually science that shows there’s passed down memories from your family members and your ancestors that influence the choices you make, and how you react to the world around you! It’s in our DNA. The research on this is pretty new, but there’s plenty of studies that show this to be true!
You can’t control this.
You also can’t control how you were raised, what parents you had, what situation you had growing up.
All of this combined together creates habits and a personality for you that starts to become who your identity is.
For most of us, this identity does a great job of keeping us alive, keeping us safe, and not harming ourselves.
What we do have control over is how we react to the world around us and the cards we’ve been given. The choices we make start to define the changes to this programming.
We have complete control over this part of our scenario, but most people believe that the way they’ve always been and the way their family is how they will always be.
However, doing so will break the mold of what has been programmed around us to keep us safe, and we start to get pushback from the world around us, our friends, our family when we start to operate outside of the original programming for our life.
Only when we break the mold of this programming by a conscious choice of our own that:
I will choose the life I want to live
I will decide how big I want to dream
I will choose to go after my dreams and accomplish them!
For many of us, this doesn’t come naturally because when we’ve tried this, it’s like touching a hot stove. We get burned, we get hurt sometimes, and we go back to our original programming.
But when you start to realize that you have control over the choices you make, not because you’re weighing the pros and cons, but rather because you are choosing the path you want for yourself (big difference) - only then are you able to create new possibilities for yourself and your life!
I broke this very thing down in my Grow Your Life Podcast Episode #1 about Transforming Impossibilities Into Attainable Results
You can create new situations for you and your family. You can choose to break the mold and go outside of the box of what life tells you is possible for yourself.
It starts with a choice - not because one choice is better than another, but because you choose ‘This is the life I want for myself and my family’.